Monday, October 17, 2011

Grateful

Cramps. Contractions. All day. Being pregnant was not at all what I expected. I had several friends and even one sister that seemed to just breeze through it. Then there was me: all-day-and-then-some sickness, minor infections, twisted round ligaments, anemia, and now my constant labor pains. I almost -almost- wanted to sink into a pathetic state of self pity until I thought of a few things:
1. I wasn't sick my entire pregnancy.
2. I don't have the chronic back pain that some women experience.
3. I have no major complications.
4. My baby is healthy (and oh so beautiful!).
5. I have no stretch marks due to pregnancy.
6. My ankles and feet and legs are not swollen.
And most of all
7. I can have children. I'm sure there are many women who would endure much worse just to be a mom.
Yup, can't really feel sorry for myself now.
Have a fabulous day!

3 comments:

Darryl and Cindy Cunningham said...

And it will be soon my dear. Very soon.

Unknown said...

I'm glad that in all your happiness of being pregnant and even with dealing with all the pains and woes that come with it that your still able to be thankful for it and to realize how blessed you are to be pregnant. I've got two very special women in my life, one is my sister and one was my best friend growing up who have been told they will never have children. Both have tried so many things(drugs, fertility treatments, homeopathic remedies, anything that might give them a chance) and have spent so much money trying to conceive but no success. My best friend was able to get pregnant but loss the baby after 3 weeks. She said that loosing that baby was worse then never having being pregnant at all. Thankfully, her and her husband were blessed and were able to adopt a baby earlier this year. Surprisingly, this past year my sister found out that she was pregnant after trying for over 8 years. With all the infertility problems she has, it really is a miracle. I just want to say thanks for remembering all the women out there that deal with infertility and the heartache and trials that go along with it. =)

Cali and Travis said...

As one of the above mentioned women who will never have biological children, it irritates me more than anything in the world when I come across a woman who does nothing but complain and gripe about being pregnant.

I can say thankfully that my baby sister, Skye is not one of them. She's had a tough pregnancy, but given all that she's gone through she hasn't really complained or whined nearly as much as some women I've come into contact with.

About the only thing that irritates me more than that are people who tell me that now that we've been blessed to adopt two beautiful and healthy children, we'll probably get pregnant. I think it's absolutely appalling that someone would assume to know me and my situation well enough to say something like that.

The truth is, I do believe in miracles. I have been blessed with two of them. And if the Lord has another miracle out there then great. But that doesn't necessarily mean that I'll ever have the experience of carrying and giving birth to my own children.

After having watched my husband and I go through our own fertility and adoption struggles, I'm so grateful for my wonderful family members who have been loving and supportive and have never made me feel bad for not getting to have that experience myself.

I have a strong testimony and a firm belief that we get the children we were meant to have in our families. I know my two kids are the ones Heavenly Father wanted me to raise, regardless of how they got here. And in the end that's all that really matters anyway.